Wednesday, May 01, 2013

Dr Elizabeth “EFM” McClung 1970 – 2013

It is with mixed emotions that I write this blog, informing you that my wife Elizabeth died in the early morning hours of Monday, April 29th.

For all her loyal readers who have shared parts of the journey with her, this will come as no shock. Her health had declined significantly in the past month and as she wrote so vividly on Saturday, April 27th what was happening to her, I don’t need to repeat it again. The end, when it came, was quick. Her autonomic system failed and her heart gave out.

I am happy that despite how she was feeling, we had a good final day. Cheryl and I visited with her, she taught us about what she had learned the previous day in a documentary. She found a song that she and I could sing so we sang it multiple times. She shared that she loved us and thanked us for all that we have done for her.

In her final blog she mentioned how she regretted not being able to post Sakuracon pictures. Here are a few that I wanted to share with you. Cheryl and I are both so glad that Elizabeth was able to go this year. The prep was hard on Elizabeth, she got a manicure and got her hair done. She commented how she felt beautiful again, or as beautiful as one can be when swollen with edema.

Friday was the busiest day for us at the convention. In the morning there was a kimono workshop. Beth had brought her yukata along so that the women there could help her dress. I also joined in the fun and tried on a kimono, too.

After the kimono workshop we went to the foam sword fighting event. She REALLLLY wanted to participate and thought she could clear the floor with her epee expertise. All the places were filled so she couldn’t participate in the competition itself. But the manager of the con made arrangements with the organizer that if there was time left over that Beth would be able to bout with someone. Beth had already picked out her someone – the blade runner.

Luck was in her favour and there was time for her. They agreed to two short bouts – the first one with Beth using NDY and the second with Beth standing. The first, Beth won and it was quite a site to see. She was zipping around in NDY and he was running around on his blades.
The second bout Beth didn’t win. It ended when she made a lunge and couldn’t come back out of it.
She fell on the floor and hurt her hand and one side of her body. At the time she didn’t mention the pain because she was so pumped from getting to be an athlete again.

We went back to the hotel that afternoon for a short nap before the masquerade ball. Last year we were all too exhausted to go, despite best intentions. We were determined that this year we would make it. Beth really wanted to dance with me again. Over the years she mentioned how she’d love to see me in a tux. I found a tuxedo shirt and did my best to make her wish come true. It took so much effort for Beth to get out of bed that evening, but we made it to the ball in time for the last dance, to which we waltzed. A great memory for me.

Saturday we spent mostly in the exhibition hall. Beth found the dentist from previous conventions who made custom fangs. She got a pair made and showed them off that afternoon.


Sakuracon came at a great physical cost to Beth, but one she was willing to pay for a chance to experience life. I have often thought and have heard others tell me that she was larger than life. It was an apt description because she was always doing grand things. Who else can say they were listed in the community paper as one of the best things about their city? Here are just a few examples…

Screw Bronze – Elizabeth published 1240 blogs. There are several more that she partially completed but didn’t have the energy to finish. Earlier this year she reached the milestone of 1 million views.

The Postcard Project – What started off as a cool idea to send postcards to a few readers on our Japan trip turned into an outreach project touching hundreds of people’s lives. We estimate she wrote approximately 6,600 postcards, sending to every continent except Antarctica. Anyone who was lonely, sick or just wanted a piece of fun mail could ask and they would receive one or many postcards at no cost to them. Many recipients aided the project by sending blank postcards from where they lived, others sent stickers or donated to the cause. Huge thanks go out to Jane and Michael in particular and to Cheryl who footed the bill for the majority of the postage over the years. Elizabeth, Cheryl and I worked through many nights making each postcard with love and good wishes.

Zed – How many people have dreamed of writing a novel and never get past the first 20 pages? Or are so daunted they don’t even try? That didn’t stop Elizabeth. Zed was published in 2006 and received high praise. If you want to read it and don’t have your own copy, I have a few copies which I can let go at cost.

Travel – In our nearly twenty years together we spent a lot of time travelling. We visited nearly every American state. She has travelled across Canada by rail, we both travelled to Churchill, Manitoba in the far north of Canada. We lived in Wales for seven years and while there visited the following European countries: Ireland, Northern Ireland, Scotland, England, Holland, Belgium, France, Germany, the Czech Republic, Italy, Turkey and Greece. We also spent a month in Thailand. In recent years, she tried not to let her disease prevent her from travelling. In 2008 we went to Japan for nearly 3 weeks and in 2009 we went to Hawaii. Both were lifelong dreams for Beth. In 2010 we did a road trip down to San Diego. The past couple of years we stuck closer to home, but still made shorter trips around BC and Washington state. One highlight was watching the salmon jumping which gave her great encouragement. She took thousands of photos – a self-proclaimed camera whore.

Athletics – Beth always enjoyed running. In her late teens she ran the Los Angeles Marathon, trained for the Commonwealth Games in 1994, and ran various 10km races with me. She took up epee fencing in 2006 and by early 2007 was competing in the Canadian National fencing competition. Shortly after the nationals her disease made itself known. She then went on to boxing in her wheelchair, rock climbing with just her arms, sailing, badminton, wheelchair racing and in the last year focused on walking despite having 180+ heart rates and neuropathy in her legs. She participated in 5 Terry Fox runs. Terry Fox was a huge inspiration for Beth.

Advocacy – Beth hated lying, hypocrisy and injustice. Locally, she confronted VIHA, Beacon Community Services, doctors, specialists, the Times Colonist 10km race organizers, local politicians, Assistant Deputy Ministers and the Public Service Agency just to name a few. At the global level she wrote for the BBC website’s Ouch blog about disability issues. Several of those posts were subsequently published by various care-giving organizations around the world. Screw Bronze was peppered with advocacy in women’s athletics, GLBT rights and rights for those living with disabilities.

She was a remarkable person and I am honoured that she loved me and that I could share the best part of her life with her.

 
I have had several people ask whether they could send flowers/cards/donate to charity. Please don’t send flowers (I’ll be off visiting my family for a week or two). Cards for me and/or Cheryl can be sent to PO Box 2560, Port Angeles, WA 98362. If you want to make a donation to honour Elizabeth’s memory, you could donate to the Terry Fox foundation (either directly through their website or via the paypal link on Girl’s Gotta Fly). Over the years a number of people have suggested a book be compiled based on her blog entries. If this is something you would like to see happen, you could donate to that through Girl’s Gotta Fly. Please make sure you mark it as such so that I know whether the donation is for the Terry Fox Foundation or for the book.

One final note... please feel free to leave a comment here.  As this was Elizabeth's blog, no future posts will be added here.  I will update Girl's Gotta Fly with arrangements/memorials, etc.
 
 

66 comments:

JaneB said...

Thank you. For all the work that went on to enable Beth to continue to be herself, to be a wonderful friend and teacher and all those other things you listed - and for sharing these pictures with us.

Anonymous said...

I am so blessed to have been a part of Beth's family and to have shared so many adventures with you both. I cherish the time we spent and the memories I have. Beth truly wanted the best for those around her and had a knack for encouraging personal growth. I have learner somuch from her. She encouraged, pushed and sometimes metaphorically drug me kicking and screaming to try new things and step way outside my comfort zone. I am so much a better person for it.

If I had it all to do over again knowing in advance how difficult it would be at times, I would without hesitation. Knowing Beth has been a gift beyond price.

I miss her but I am glad she is free of pain and suffering at last. Be at peace Sis! I love you.

Cheryl

In a green frock eating spinach from a bamboo bowl said...

Ohhh this is a new experience for me, I had tears streaming down my face for someone I'd never met in person! I've been following Elizabeth's blog for years, I'd found it when I did a search fo the Terry Fox run...I'd remembered participating in it as a kid with my school. From her posts I almost felt like I knew her, the photos from Sakuracon look amazing, and beautiful she got to enjoy it one last time. Thoughts are with you and with Cheryl during this time. x Lucie

The Goldfish said...

Elizabeth meant such a great deal to the disability blogging community. Today happens to be Blogging Against Disablism Day, which Beth participated in four times between 2007 and 2010, so I hope it's okay that we've dedicated this year's blogswarm to her memory.

I have many personal memories of Elizabeth. I have all the postcards she sent. When she commented on my blog, she always took the time to write a thorough and balanced response, whether she agreed with me or not.

She was an amazing woman, who taught me a great deal.

Thinking of you all.

Penny L. Richards said...

So much love to her loved ones! Beth reached out, in every possible way, and she was really good at it--honest and persistent and funny and real. Hers is a voice we will miss in the world.

Konekon1nj4 said...

I've read Elizabeth's blog for several years. She sent my son and I postcards and her blog was inspirational in a real way. The kind that makes you think and wonder and evaluate your own life and whether you are really doing what you should. All my condolences go to you Linda. I am grateful for being able to read the blog and to Elizabeth for sharing so much of herself.

Baba Yaga said...

Thank you, Linda. It's good to see the photos; Beth and the blade-runner somehow encapsulates the way she lived - and beaming a beautiful smile as she enters competition. (You look well in a kimono, too!)

And thank you, and Cheryl, for all you did to ensure that Beth could continue to live her Bethness, right to the end. It seems impertinent to thank you, but I hope you know what I mean. She once wrote of you as the wind beneath her wings.

I'll miss her. I'm sure you'll miss her more; and hope you'll enjoy freedom from the constraints her illness (not to mention other people's prejudice and obstructiveness) brought.

Jenna said...

I am so sorry to hear this, but glad that Beth can finally rest. I've loved reading her blog and hearing about her adventures. I'm going to treasure the postcards she sent, and remember her strength and perseverance against challenges and injustice.

s.e. smith said...

I'm so sorry to hear of Beth's passing, and so thankful for all she's accomplished here on Screw Bronze and elsewhere. She will be missed--and I am glad she is free from suffering.

Sharon Wachsler said...

Oh, I was so sad to get this news via BADD. I always looked forward to Elizabeth's BADD posts.

She was so fierce, funny, insightful, and clever. So open and unapologetic. As another disabled lesbian blogger, I felt such affinity for her work. I feel such loss for our community.

Anonymous said...

I've been a reader of this blog since it was nearly new, I found it randomly and read a few entries, but it was Elizabeth's writing style and personality that kept me coming back.

Not only did I learn things, but I was inspired. "Screw Bronze!" has become a personal mantra. I don't know anyone in my non-electronic life who was as strong as Elizabeth, except for maybe you two, who stayed with her at great personal sacrifice.

Cheers to her, and to you!

-Warn

Kathz said...

I am so sorry to hear this news but glad to see that Beth was able to hold a sword once more. The love that she gave and was given have made a difference in the world. I have been so cheered by the postcards; somehow they managed to arrive when I was feeling down and needed to be cheered. My love and best wishes to Linda and Cheryl.

Zoƫ Kirk-Robinson said...

I am so sorry to hear about Beth's passing.

She has touched the lives of so many from around the world, and she will be sorely missed.

My thoughts are with you and her family.

Rest in peace, Beth. We'll miss you.

Anonymous said...

Beth was a very special person who lived by her ideals and who could amaze me with her intellectual insights. At the same time she knew how to have fun and to find the joy in small things which she shared with her friends and blog readers. Her passing has left a big hole and I send lots of love to Linda, Cheryl and close friends who must miss her so much. I know I will x Cathx

Kita said...

I am so, so sorry to hear this news. Beth was an inspiration to all of us. Linda, I wish you peace and joy and love in this traumatic time - I am so glad that you and Beth had the time together you had. Thinking you,, sweetie. God bless. Xxxx

deadrose said...

My condolences to you, Linda and Cheryl. Beth lived with gusto!

Anonymous said...

Beth was such a caring friend. Her postcards were meticulously put together, and I could always tell how much thought she put into each element of the composition. I will miss her postcards and e-mails, and I'll cherish her memory!

Nancy

Anonymous said...

May her memory live on to keep inspiring us. Much love and support to her friends and loved ones.

Kate J said...

Linda, my deepest sympathy. I remember so vividly, meeting you and Beth in Victoria, must be 3 years ago now. And that was after some years of following the blog and seeing her health deteriorate so much. She was so unlucky in her health and in so much else, but so very lucky to have you as her life partner and to have such good friends as Cheryl and others.
I will really miss her, her comments on films, books and music, but most of all the way she shared her life, the pain as well as the joys, with so many people she had never met.
Beth, may you fly,
Love and peace
Kate

Never That Easy said...

I'm so sorry to hear of Elizabeth's passing. Virtual hugs and support to you, as well as her other family & friends. I've always looked forward to her contributions to BADD, and she will be missed. I wish you the very best at this difficult time.

Ruth said...

Beth's voice will be missed greatly, as will be her loving nature. Sitting here looking at one of the gifts she sent me as a writer to another writer - with very mixed emotions. Glad she is at rest and oh so happy to have known her on this short journey of life - and also mindful of your grief at this time. Wishing you the best.

yanub said...

I've been so disorganized, I let my conversations with Beth lapse, and I regret that. For all Beth has done in her life, for her fight, her insight, and kindness, I can only day too late that her influence outlives her.

GirlWithTheCane said...

My condolences, Linda.

She fought so hard for so long...I think that there was a part of me that believed, childishly, that she'd beat it and get better.

I didn't leave comments or email nearly enough...but I thought of her so often...

Rest now, Beth. Thank you for everything that you taught me.

Love,

Sarah

Anonymous said...

Rest in Peace!

You are remembered by followers from BBC Ouch days.

Wheelchair Dancer said...

Rest in peace. With thanks for all you taught me, for all you showed me, for taking me under your wings.

to Linda and Cheryl --

sending everything.

And

to Beth!

WCD

Anonymous said...

I have kept reading Elizabeth's blog although have felt unable to comment since my Amy's death almost two years ago. Both she and Amy taught me a great deal about a life lived well and to the full, with strength, courage and spirit.

Much love to you and Cheryl, Linda.

Crawford said...

I feel very sad tonight. I lost contact with her in the last few months, and this is something I will always regret. Her postcards and emails did a great deal for me during dark times. I will never get a last chance to say thank you, one more time. It is my own fault. Rest in peace, Elizabeth. You have earned that and so much more.

Jeffery Walton said...

I have quietly read Elizabeth's blog for years, inspired by her strength and courage especially as I became disabled myself. Please accept my most heartfelt condolances for your loss. The world is a much emptier plae without her. Even in her absence I will still be inspired by her indomitable spirit and the courageous way she lived.

FridaWrites said...

I've been trying to find words all day through the tears. I'm so sorry for your loss, Linda and Cheryl. Beth was a wonderful light in the world.

I don't think I've ever known someone as smart as she--with her breadth and depth of knowledge. She wrote prolifically despite her illness. And yet people were most important to her. She had a love for others like no other and was always teaching us.

I was an anonymous commenter on her blog over time--she recognized the pattern and pushed, pushed me to set up a blog and welcomed me to the disability community. There wouldn't be a FridaWrites without her. So many times she kept me going when no one else could.

When my son became ill with what seems to be ME or rheumatologic illness two years ago, I remembered her courage over and over in the face of people not believing her. It's sustained us through a lack of diagnosis. And I wouldn't have even known about ME without her.

I regret that she had to suffer so much and that her days were cut short by this terrible illness.

Love to both of you for all you did for her.

wendryn said...

I am sorry to hear this, but I am glad she continued to live life all the way to the end. I'm glad you and Cheryl made it possible for her to go to Sakura Con one more time.

Elizabeth meant a lot to me and to my husband, and our daughter will hear stories - her middle name is Elizabeth after your Elizabeth, and I can only hope that she ends up as strong, intelligent, and caring as EFM was. I still have postcards and other cool things that I treasure, and we have two copies of Zed, one for us and one to lend out.

I hope that you find some peace in this. I cannot say that I know what you went through with Beth's illness, but I know bits and pieces, and you are a truly amazing person. You made it possible for her to live her life as fully as possible for much longer than she otherwise would have been able to.

I'm thinking a lot about you and hoping you get through this.

*hugs*

Lene Andersen said...

Beth will have ripples. Her fierce fight challenge o much and so many. I'd like to believe that the system will serve others better because of her. I know that I'm not the only one whose life was changed by knowing her. Beth will have ripples. She challenged all of us to feel more deeply and think harder — how we live our lives and try to do so better will be because of her.

Much love to you and Cheryl. Thank you for everything you did that helped Beth be everything she was.

Anonymous said...

Dear Linda and Cheryl. You have my love and my thoughts Nicci xx

Gaina said...

Dear Linda and Cheryl. I am so sad to learn of Beth's passing from Lene.

Lots of love to you,

Gaina x

Lailah said...

Thank you, Linda, for the last six years. For postcards and photographs and costumes and adventures and so many squirrels. For documenting visually what Elizabeth documented in words, so that together the two of you took me on many vicarious journeys - my favorites have definitely been Japan and the various local cemeteries - so that I was able to see some of the joy in the outside world even though I couldn't leave my bed.

My contact with you and Elizabeth was far away and infrequent, but I considered Beth to be a real friend and the impact she had on my life, first through the blog and then through our personal correspondence, was immense.

I'm having a hard time writing this comment - I've been trying for a day now - the format has always felt weird for expressing personal thoughts, which is why I mostly wrote letters and emails to Beth. I wrote a tribute post to her yesterday, which says how I feel better than I can here. I asked Goldfish to include it in the Blogging Against Disability Day roundup as well so that people who may not have known Elizabeth can learn a little of her legacy. http://eversoscrumptiously.wordpress.com/2013/05/01/elizabeth-mcclung-1970-2013/ (I put the same post on facebook yesterday as well, but to my chagrin I called Beth "Liz" for some reason and facebook doesn't let you edit! Cognitive processing issues strike again.)

I can't begin to imagine how you're feeling right now. It has been such a long, complicated journey of love and beauty and illness and suffering. I want to acknowledge that what I've witnessed from over here is an incredible relationship and some of the most supportive, stalwart, dedicated caregiving - of both body and soul - that I've ever seen. That goes for Cheryl as well. I believe that Cheryl became "sister" to Beth following the same advertising-for-a-family post where I signed on as "flakey cousin," and I have loved watching such deep family bonds develop between the three of you over the years. I hope the two of you can take some time and get support in getting some of the deep rest and healing I imagine might be called for now for you both.

So much love to you,
~Lailah

nauget bluff said...

Out of all the issues tackled here on screw bronze...it was not the difficult one's that defined Elizabeth for me...it was when she was in the park with her squirrels... and smiling from ear to ear... that is how I will always think of her...

Anonymous said...

Elizabeth
God speed dearheart
your brutal openness and honesty will be much missed. your loved ones are in my prayers. you have taught me so much about courage and living without compromise..
much comfort and peace to Linda and Cheryl
Jill

Anonymous said...

Linda,
Thank you for your final post on Beth's blog. I can't pretend to know what you're feeling or to come close to sharing your grief. But I want you to know that I'm here, and I'm sorry. I've been reading Beth's blog since 1997 (I think), and although I've never commented, it has become a part of my life. When I was in Japan last year, I traveled with you and Beth in mind, pulling up your pictures online to compare with my own, and comparing my experiences with yours. I wish you peace and comfort during this difficult time, and I thank both of you for sharing your lives with the world.
Kate

Raccoon said...

The good news: she doesn't have to deal with needles anymore.

The bad news: I know she didn't finish everything she wanted to do.

I had the pleasure of meeting the three of you, in 2010, at Comic Con. I've talked with her many times over the phone. It's a bit amazing how she could talk and talk and talk and how, only at the end, suddenly lose her energy and start having problems, and still want to talk some more.

It was Her/your trip to Japan that gave me a bit of a kick in the butt for my trip to Korea a few months later. "If Elizabeth can do Japan in a manual chair and just her Wife, going all around Japan, I should be able to do Seoul in a power chair with three people…"

And her going to the gym (a nasty word: inspired) my own visits.

When you compile (notice I said "when" not "if") the Blog-book, include the comments, please. There are things that were included in those conversations that weren't necessarily in the blog entries proper. 1200 entries? That would be a three or four volumes Set…

Linda and Cheryl, if I can do anything, let me know.

Raccoon/Michael

Now I'll read what everyone else has been saying…

Anonymous said...

Dear Linda,
it's me, SharonMV.
Thank you so much for telling us the story of Beth's last days. Thank you for being her lover, wife & friend. I must say that I cried out loud in grief when I read of Beth's death. I miss her. I'll remember her always. she was a very dear friend.
The days must be very hard on you now, so much grief. I hope you feel some peace also or that it will come.I don't know what you do with a pain that big.

Beth affected so many people in person and through her writing. I only knew her through her words and the the lovely, thoughtful gifts she sent me over the years.

Yes, I knew Beth for five years and i am thankful for every day. I started reading her blog right before the trip to Japan. I asked Beth to send me a postcard of cherry blossoms from Japan and she did. So I was there at the beginning of the Postcard Project. Only Beth could have turned those first postcards into such a vast, world wide endeavor.
Love to you, Linda and Cheryll.
I will always love Beth.
Sharon

Tom P. said...

I am so sorry. Beth was someone special and she will always be missed. I am sorry I never met her. Perhaps some day I will.

Neil said...

Dearest Beth: I'm sorry that I've been so busy tht I haven't had tome to visit your blog for over two weeks. And now you're gone.

Linda: THANK YOU for everything you've done for Elizabeth. You were her rock, and I'm sure you were the best wife ever. My Beloved and I send our deepest condolences, many zen hugs (the ones you would give if you were there, but you're not), and she said her only idea for a memarial was "corests at helf-mast."

I have been telling people quite cheerfully about Beth, her marriage to you, and her determination to LIVE until she died. And she did that.

I know she hated the term "inspiration" but she was, is, and always will be, an inspiration to me. I will continue to carry my Gotta Fly bracelet, and honour her memory - and honour you too - every day.

Many hugs, Linda and Cheryl, and much love from Regina.

Neil

Victor Kellar said...

Another goodbye. Wonder if it really be the last one. Let's find out

Sue said...

I am so sorry to hear of Beth's passing. I was a faithful reader of her blog for the past few years and never failed to be impressed by her courage and her fierce integrity. I will always cherish the postcards I received from her through the Postcard Project. Thank you for loving Beth as you did, and my deepest sympathy goes out to you and to all her friends who helped her live with all her might until the end.

Anonymous said...

Yes Victor it really is the last one. Elizabeth died. The EMT's were here. The police were here. The coroner was here. Linda witnessed her love's death. She is grieving. I am grieving.

Yes Elizabeth lived far beyond what the doctor's predicted although there were several touch and go episodes in the last year.

This is the last post to Screw Bronze.

You can believe what you want. We don't have to post the death certificate or prove anything. However, I would request that you keep your opinion to yourself. Linda doesn't need the pain, she has enough anguish at the moment. --- Cheryl

Maggie said...

I miss Beth. everything else seems to pale in conparison when I think what to write. Items for Beth gathered in the last few months but not sent seemingly waiting for her birthday. I charish all of our trips and outings and photos, emails and gifts exchanged. Thank you, Cheryl for introducing me to such a wonderful person as Beth, to someone who I enjoyed for her mental smarts, our mutual love of all things old and who opened my eyes to so much more. And to Linda who I have a deep love and appreciation for you are the unsung hero of silent strength. I'm glad that Beth is at peace. Thank you for supporting and loving each other.

Victor Kellar said...

Linda, Collette and I send you our condolences, we send you our best, both of which seem paltry in these circumstances

Knowing you and Beth opened our eyes to several different perspectives

The end of her life was brutal but I think it taught a lot of people, I know it touched them

It touched us

Victor Kellar said...

Linda, Collette and I send you our condolences, we send you our best, both of which seem paltry in these circumstances

Knowing you and Beth opened our eyes to several different perspectives

The end of her life was brutal but I think it taught a lot of people, I know it touched them

It touched us

Tanya said...

Linda:
You started the last entry: it is with mixed emotions.... And with mixed emotions I am writing to you now. I am sad that Beth has passed away and I will miss her blog very much. I am relieved that she is finally at peace, I am scared that her end will be mine in the future as I also have MSA. And I am grateful that she shared her view of life, death and so many other things with us. It is wonderful that you loved her so much and stood by her. You, both have touched my life deeply. Thank you and I send you my condolences.

Maija Haavisto said...

I wrote a long memorial posting to Beth in my writing/disability blog. Unfortunately it's in Finnish and I don't have the time/energy to translate it at the moment, even though I really wish I could. Anyway, if you want to read it, Google Translate provides a decent version (I added notes at the bottom for a few parts that may remain unclear). http://www.ilmestykset.net/2013/05/elizabeth-efm-mcclung-1970-2013/

Thank you Linda and Cheryl.

TobiC said...

I am so very sorry, Linda and Cheryl, for the loss of Beth. She was an astonishing, challenging, extraordinary person, the like of whom does not pass by often. You are both extraordinary yourselves. I wish you both peace and healing.

Anonymous said...

The world is now a poorer place

phyrry said...

Beth *is* an inspiration to me, not because of her illness, but because she relentlessly spoke truth to power. I treasure the postcards and gifts she sent me, but I treasure more her example of how to keep fighting the good fight when all the world's against you. I wish I could have been the friend she needed from me, one more failure for my wall.

She is missed.

Alex M said...

You fought the whole way, Elizabeth, and you did it with class. Your kind heart and soul came through in everything you did, and I am so thrilled you got to be an athlete again before you passed on.

I hope your energy is floating around above us and that you can feel the positive impact you had on so many people. You will be missed.

Linda and Cheryl: Thanks so much for taking such good care of her along the way. My deepest condolences for your loss.

Ms Luna said...

she was a great inspiration to me in all things i wrote this post on my blog to commemorate her http://travellinggothicwitch.blogspot.co.uk/2013/05/rip-beth-sempai.html my best wishes to you linda and cheryl

Anonymous said...

GCN remembers her...our sincere symphathy. See message board- prayers for you Linda and alll who knew and loved her.

Amy said...

Linda, I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know if you'd recognize me from way back in the Sunday night card game days but I remember you and Beth well. So much has happened in the years since, but you're both unforgettable people. My thoughts & best wishes are with you. -Amy

Tina Russell said...

I don’t know what to say... I’m grateful to Beth that she was so honest, so genuine, that I always felt comfortable telling her how I feel and what she means to me. So, I’m experiencing a rare gift of closure, that Elizabeth died knowing everything I wanted to tell her. At the same time, it gives me a heavy heart to know she’s not with us any longer. Much love to you, Cheryl, and Linda, and everyone else that Beth touched with her love and presence. Beth, while dying, taught each and every one of us what it truly means to live.

catsmum said...

I had a feeling that the time had finally come for Elizabeth to fly free. I kept popping in to Postcard Project long after it became obvious that David, renata and I would never again receive one of her wonderful creations. All of David's cards are still stuck to his wardrobe and he looks at them often even though he cannot realise the effort that went into creating them.
Much love to you my dear

DaisyDeadhead said...

I am sorry I didn't know until now. My deepest sympathies to you and her other family and friends.

Vanessa said...

I rearranged my postcards today and cried. I miss you sweet lady.

ealperin said...

My condolences to you, Beth, & those who have both known & have loved her, over the years.

I just, today, found this blog, by chance. From what I've read, so far, she sounded like an amazing individual who loved, not only you, but her passion.

May she rest in peace.

ealperin said...

My condolences to you, Beth, & those who have both known & have loved her, over the years.

I just, today, found this blog, by chance. From what I've read, so far, she sounded like an amazing individual who loved, not only you, but her passion.

May she rest in peace.

Anonymous said...

I miss you.

DaisyDeadhead said...

I miss you EFM, I found a funny comment you left on my blog, years ago.

It made me smile again, just like the first time. So you are still with us.

My love xoxoxo

Selene said...

I've only just read of this, so sorry to hear of Elizabeth's death, thank you to you, and to her, for keeping this blog and sharing her with the world. Fly free.

Mandy Moo said...

I'm just reading this....I'm so shocked...
i am so very sorry for your loss...Thank you all for taking time out to send me postcards...i will treasure them like I always have done....much love to you all.. xxxxx ����