Beyond Halloween being LGBTTQI's Pride Night II, it is the traditional night of liberation, taking that persona out of the closet and giving it a spin. Feminine Butches,
take no nonesense femmes, feminine men, and playful androgyny.
Masks, roles, identities, and the perception we’re comfortable with. Halloween is the annual night we get a ‘Truth or Dare’ pass to step into another skin: that ‘grass is greener’ fantasy; the desire to shuck the role we play; the night repressions' are set free and what occurs behind the closed doors comes out to play.
Jung says that we are all the male, the female, the angel and the devil. Femininity has as many definitions as it has observers. Which is the greater mask; the helix of the male and female, one stuck within limiting options of strength and the other playing the role where that strength has a purpose, amd is desired?
So instead of another horror flick try watching Victor/Victoria this Halloween (or Halloween week).
It has everything: a straight couple that accept coming out as gay; crossdressing; discovering liberating trans and learning to be a partner to same plus vamping femmes and gay teddy bears. The films displays the innate femininity within the aspects, social and unspoken, of being male, not to mention the variance behind stereotype, and times when a cigar isn’t just a cigar.
As one reader wrote, it is oft harder for a woman to be ‘more feminine’ as she mentally perceives it
than for her to cross dress as the androgynous male. And easier for a guy to cross dress than allow themselves the daily feminine. As long as there have been social lines of taboo, the desire to try the other side has existed. So enjoy a love story or triangle of Victor, the man in love with him and the femme determined to keep ‘her man’ deep in his social role. Beyond a vocal ascension which has to be heard to be believed, enjoy the delights of ‘if I feel this, how does that change me?’, ‘and how does that change how others see me?’ to ‘and why should I care?’
As the other part of the quote in the title says, "Let desire guide you.." (booze sometimes helps too)
Have a trans-formative Halloween!
PS – Prize to the first two people to guess the origin of the quote (without googling it), ends on Nov. 5th.
I am an academic, a lesbian who IS married, 17 years, and a full time wheelchair user, now power chair user. I write about disability issues on the blog Screw Bronze and up to Nov. 2008 on BBC's OUCH! Currently I am working on the postcard project (sending out a postcard to everyone who wants/needs one! Over 5,300 sent. To get a postcard for free click the link below!).
Yeah, I'm terminal, I'm end stage, I have days without hope - so similar to all those years of retail jobs during Xmas. Hee.