In short, my trip to bed was delayed last night because of a series of seizures. When I was awoken four hours later by the workers starting early on the roof by working directly above my head for the third straight day the seizures continued. Though I had been given a valium to help me sleep through the work on the roof, when someone starts pounding in nails in your ceiling 60 seconds later, it is hard to fall asleep in the .5 second breaks it takes them to grab another nail. My care worker seemed to be gone, Linda was down talking to the manager (who had “forgotten” I have to sleep every six hours: she was the type were you say, “But can we ask them what their plan is, since they have STARTED over our apartment for three straight days?” and she replies, “This roof is for everyone.”)
I did not know when Linda would return and was too weak to move, I felt an aura coming (the precursor of a seizure). The fear that I would be left alone and paralyzed while seizure after seizure occurred frightened me to the point that I hit the life-line button on my wrist. Because Linda was not there, nor could I respond an ambulance was sent and I was bundled up, nightie and that’s about all; into the ER van. After pushing the button, I did have a seizure so could not speak to the ER people. Linda was again, not recognized at my partner, though she announced herself as my medical power of attorney but neither of that got her past the first line of nurses into the ER, an hour later she bluffed her way in.
Apparently in the unloading bay, according the ER Physican Assessment, I had a clonic tonic seizure in the ER waiting area, was given Adovan. Followed by another seizure in the ER while on monitors (more Adovan). Blood was drawn (using Emla), and the anemia was confirmed, I was given Adovan for home use until I could see my GP and the Lyrica was approved for use until a seizure specialist could see me (oh, how many months?). Then back home….to the roofing, with still a few hours sleep. The rest of the day has been sleep and recovery. The roofers ARE here tomorrow and all next week. I HAVE to hope that this is not a daily occurrence. Much of my memory of ER was wiped by the seizures but this I know: One of the attendants turned to Linda and asked me, “So is this your mom?” Yes, I may be terminal, have no sleep and be in ER, but golly, I look YOUNG!
I will try to reconstruct more off the physician record tomorrow, today was survival, banging, talking to a manager who despite having three witnesses, two standing in front of her assures me that the contractor who is NOT at the site assures HER there is NO way the workers are starting before 7:00 am. Linda offered to call her up to our apartment Friday morn when they start but the manager just closed the door. Odd that.
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19 comments:
Dear Beth,
So sorry that you had to go through that alone,scared & unable to reach Linda. I think you did the right thing, pressing the button. Glad Linda was able to make it past the hospital's defenses finally. Hope the meds help & that you are able to sleep.
Can anyone at the hospital help/facilitate getting some of these specialist appointments? Maybe you could call that helpful RN again. Or is it only through referral from your GP? Wish I knew more about your healthcare system, so I could help.
I'll be thinking of you tonight. Thinking of you sleeping.
Sharon
It all sounds horrible - and this must have been happening while my daughter and I were thinking of you and looking forward to opening the package you sent - such a delight. (More on Facebook where I've sent a message - I think my daughter has also invited you to be one of her Facebook friends.)
Hope the weekend will be fine.
They can work all weekend can they?
At least not sunday? Or?
I will be going away, don't want, to anxiety levels like 100/100 or something. But before this hit me I've been looking forward to it for weeks. so...
have a nice and restful weekend
I'm sorry you had such a - I suppose "bad night/morning" would be a euphemism in this context? *sends warm positive thoughts*
Is there a noise bylaw in Victoria? Her in Regina, if you're bothered by loud noises befoe (I think) 7:30 am, you can call the police. If it's a quiet morning for the cops, or loud enough noise, they'll show up, and if they don't come, they've got a record of the time you called. And if it's loud enough to hear through the telephone, surely that's proof of too much noise.
WEll, it did work for a friend who once held the phone out the window to let the dispatcher hear a loud car being revved like a drag racer; she was asked if she was at the airport (nope; wrong end of city), and an officer arrived within 4 minutes. Car was never heard again...
And once again you got helpful prescriptions from Emerg? Okay, they're in the dark ages about marriage, but if they're actually helping you, complain veryvery politely about Linda not being wanted in the Spouse box.
Hmm, you're both wives? That would be two wives in one marriage, which is polygamy. And if the plural of mouse is mice, the box on the form should be a Spice box. Please don't glare at me like that, Beth; my monitor screen is melting.
Zen hugs and ope for a quiet morning,
Neil
PS: DAMN! It's 6:55 a.m., and the workers at the hospital across the alley from us are busy making steel-worker sort of noises already. How ironic is that?
So sorry, sweetie - that sounds really scary. Cannot believe they barred Linda - maybe a call to the CEO of the hospital is in order (yes, I know - who the hell has the energy for that). Rididulous.
If Victoria's like Toronto (yeah, right), you can complain to the City re: the bylaw infraction with the contractors working before/past the time they're allowed.
Big hugs.
((HUG)) It's not nice to feel that vulnerable. I cannot *believe* they wouldn't let Linda through! Even if she had just been a neighbour, surely common sense would have told them you were vulnerable, scared and needed a familiar face?
Dipshits **grumble**
A plague of locusts in their underwear!!
Sorry you had to go through that Beth. Hoping today is a better day for you and that you have a good weekend. (((hugs)))
Can you just make the E/R your GP? They seem to be more helpful with meds than your actual GP.
It's such crap that they won't recognize Linda as your wife, since you are legally married. That just pisses me off to no end. Being in the E/R is a place you just need to have your spouse with you.
How many more days are the roofers supposed to be there?
My gosh, that roofing sounds nightmarish. I can't imagine having to sleep through that. Yes, local noise/construction ordinances might buy you an extra hour or so of sleep time.
How terrible that they wouldn't let Linda back there with you in the ER for a while. Good for her for being persistent. People need someone there with them.
Is Adovan for seizures too?
Contractors can be a pain in the arse - if they're contracted not to start before 7 and they're doing so, your local environmental enforecement department should be able to do something about it. They'll be starting early because they want to finish on time or early for a bonus, and they won't want to admit to it in case they're found in breach of contract, little buggers.
I'm glad you have the panic button. Shame it didn't come with flashcards for use when help arrives - something simple like a thumbs up on one side and two fingers on the other would be a start...
Oh Beth,I am so sorry that while trying to fix one problem a more emergant one pops up. I am glad that you had the lifeline and that you did go to the ER.
Perhaps Linda needs to get really assertive and politely tell whom ever, that if they don't allow her to be at your side that she will call her attorney at home so that he/she can file a discrimination suit first thing in the morning or when ever the next time the courts are open. If that doesn't work with that person go to the next higher up repeat the first step and add that same sex marriage is legal and that they are violating spousal rights. Outside of what I emailed you, filing a complaint is the only way that I know of. I do have archived the necessary statutes to quote.
I so hope that you are able to get some rest. Remember that you are loved. Happy Anniversary!
Laura
Suck, suck, suck... I am sorry you are having such a tough time right now. I really wish you could get adequate sleep since I am sure the fatigue is compounding the pain and seizures.
Sorry; after an agreement with the manager and owner that the builders would start on the other side of the building in the morning, they started at 6:50 with a hammer AND a blowtorch. After trying for 45 minutes and 15 mg valium, had to move out of building, found another location, slept and have returned. The building goes on another week. The owner was notified of my sleep condition in March during the previous contruction (the one where they put a bed of nails outside my door for three days - seems he loves me!). Which means this is either an act of deliberate intent (homicide) or by not taking due diligence (manslaughter). He did however offer me.....$1 to compensate for the noise, effect on my condition and hospital trip. (no seriously, $1, that's when I told him I had a lease from HIM which said that quiet time was until 9:00 am, and that I will be paying for each day this month I recieved from him, or his managers, the terms of lease; the residential use of the premesis AND a quiet time from 10:00 pm to 9:00 am - that's when he counteroffered with $1 - and then wanted to know if I could "change my medical condition" when I said no, he said, "But you didn't have this condition when you rented?" - I tried to follow this asking if that would have been a decision in determining my rental? Sadly he declined to continue but stated taht I cannot tell, becuase I couldn't see whether the work was done above me becuase I am in a wheelchair. I counter posited that this was not abstrat quantum phsyics or Shroedingers Cat but rather a question of can someone tell if a nail is being pouned in four feet above them or 200 yards away? I contended that even a person in a wheelchair can determine that, and that in effect the doppler effect would be as or more effective than a line of sight "guestimate").
So, am I punked again! Yes I am. thank for your well wishes (please enjoy the trip anna - everyone seems to go away in August...I have yet to determine why?).
And hopefully no going to the hospital TODAY!
Builders expected until the end of next week OR BEYOND!
It's wrong! They have never told my spouse in the ER that he couldn't be in there with me, or kept him out. I am sorry. You are married and should be treated as ANY married couple would. I never realized how often same sex couples discriminated against. You BOTH deserve so much better than that. I would about bet that none of those keeping you out has as good a marriage as you and Linda.
I'm sorry that you had such a horrible evening. Is it ativan or adovan? Ativan (Lorazapam) is one of my meds. Great for panic attacks.
I will keep my fingers crossed that you get a decent amount of sleep and that manger bitch gets hit by a bout of insomnia. Lets see how she likes going without sleep.
Sorry it is Ativan - they use it to stop series of seizures by opening up the viens and doing something about blocking calcium channels - it was determined that the problem was caused by: Stress, insomnia (hammer induced), Autonomic instability, anemia and heat intolerance (heat wave yesterday!).
Well, dammit. I agree with Neil. Call the police as soon as the hammering starts.
I can't believe that this isn't bothering the other tenants. Is there any way to get in touch with the other people on your floor?
Yanub: If I remember correctly, their next-door neighbours were too busy makin' whoopee to notice a bomb going off.
Beth: I hate auras: in my case it's the sign of a migraine coming on. Had one today (still have it) and when I called someone from work to say that their kid might have forgotten the USB cord from his camera at a photo class, the person yelled (from front of van to back) to confirm that he had indeed forgotten his cord. When she said they'd pick it up, she sounded too much like my Beloved, and as we said goodbye, instead of saying thank you, I accidentally told her "I love you, goodbye." Uhhh... Huh? What is she gong to spend the weekend thinking?? I'll have to call her Monday and apologize, but I can honestly blame the headache for confusing me.
Meantime, I have to finish packing for another short SCA trip: Investiture of the new Prince and Princess of Avacal. This time, it's only a 3.5 hour drive.
Zen hugs and prayers to whoever for a good night's sleep, no seizures, and a great weekend for you and that smokin' hot child the ER won't admit you married - more unwed sex this weekend for the two of you? :)
Neil
see, my own hospital trip and brain go boom moment made me forget. Thanks for my mid-week card. It was a good pick me up. I'm sorry that you're trip was rough. I know that in this case they didn't keep Linda out because of procedures but please remember that even though she is your medical power and family there are times for safety and for your treatment that Linda will not be able to be with you in the ER. Don't always jump to the worst...having been on the other side and having told family members that they can't come in the back of the ambulance or the trauma room and it being the hardest thing to say to someone but sometimes it's also not approprate or practicle to have family there.
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