Last weekend, sunny day, Linda and I got my father to drop us off at the local fair. Having the attention span of an 11 year old I decided that I would simply DIE if I didn’t get a henna tattoo. So before you could say, go bo-peep go, I was inside the henna tent getting my tat painted on.
So while the girl, K., is painting on the henna we have a talk which may have started with weather but soon drifted to creepy guys and sex work (as these idle conversations often do). I had been getting a lot of emails recently from devotees since I did that piece on them for a disability carnival. Apparently doing a long post saying; “Hey, I’m finding this wheelchair thing kinda emotional, please stay the hell away from me” is translated in Devotee speak to “Hey, why don’t you email me; I’m just playing hard to get for those other guys because I’m really waiting for YOU.”
K. is pretty interested in the idea of sex work where you just have to take your socks on and off to make money. She tells me about a webpage (which I forgot to write down – curses!) which lists all the ways to make money on the internet in sex work which doesn’t involve sex or getting naked. She says she remembers that standing in high heels shoes on a guy’s dick is really in demand. I am thinking “Well, standing in high heels is no problem but the supply of guys who are willing to be stood on might be a bit harder.” But K. and I amuse ourselves with the thought that no matter how bad things gets, there are always odd ways to make money off (strange) men.
Anyway, with my dad driving home I tell this tid-bit about high heels to Linda when my father says emphatically, “No thank you.” I’m puzzled. “Uh dad, I don’t think this opportunity is open to you.....” I know my dad is looking ahead for things to do post retirement but this is more a chick enterprise. Wrong thing to say. Apparently my dad is NOT COOL with his daughter talking about work in the sex trade while he is driving. Even when the work, as I pointed out, would be with my clothes ON.
I tried to find this magic web site later: no luck. But I did find a recent book called, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads and Cashing in on Internet Sexploitation. The author Audacia Ray (background interview here), works for the Museum of Sex and is a famous sex blogger in her own right interviewed over 80 women on how they interact sexually with the internet. One of the major changes she notes is that women dip in and out of things like modeling, kink wear and don’t consider themselves sex workers (since you only do it twice a year to get money for a new tattoo). Audacia is interviewed by Violet Blue, fetish model and sex author for SFGate about the book. Audacia’s response to the question about going to a local cupcake store seems the perfect tongue in cheek rejoiner, “Only if you let me rub frosting on your boobs.” Darn it, what a great line that would have been to use when I did that on-air radio interview at Women’s Power Hour for Zed. On second thought, they didn’t look like the cupcake or frosting crowd.
While Audacia does bring up fetish opportunities like Nose Bondage she does warn that getting outted from sex blogging or sex work is VERY HIGH. Have no fear, I am not exactly the type of person to skulk away; any sex work I do will be blogged about right here first (once this blog becomes pay-per-view). Seriously, am I thinking about sex work? Well, when you have a Ph.D. and absolutely no one will employ you in any sort of work because you a) are sick and can only work short stretches and b) mostly need to work from home; then you start to feel like no one wants you. Only, ta da, suddenly you are getting contacted DAILY by people who pay big money for wheelchair videos and pics (one site which uses all body form female models charges about $150 a download for videos of stuff like doing your nails and dragging your ass from one transfer point to another). So on the one hand; societal rejection. On the other hand; more money in a week than I have made my entire writing career. That dichotomy is playing with my head.
I put the situation and question up on a forum: Should I enter erotic work? Responses so far are 1 yes (though they don’t know why) and the rest all “No.” Most are “no” because “not only is it a sin but you will be helping others to sin” – okay, because God was fine with me encouraging women to masturbate but now God is angry because I am thinking of painting my toes on camera? The other responses were: “Maybe you will meet someone nice this way.” My response to that: EEEEEEEWWWWWWWW! This is not a "Gee, I'm lonely" thing. Yeah, that’s why Pretty Woman is really a recruitment video for prostitution. Want to meet some nice guys? Want to have an all expense paid shopping spree? Go into the sex trade.
Anyway, more about this later since Linda is telling me her opinion of the debate tonight.
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